No matter how hard we fight for equality in the workplace, at home or in the finances, there will always be a sexist gap. We can get laws passed and continuously evolve as a society, but the truth remains.
A rich and successful woman is frowned upon.
In my life I’ve noticed that having a successful career is a big negative and if I only made a small amount of money, I’d still be in a loving relationship. My success and dedication drove a wedge between us, and it created a big swirling mess of insecurity.
Why is that?
Why can he make more money than I do and it’s encouraged, but if I make more than him it’s considered a bad thing? I may never fully understand the reasoning behind it, but there’s no doubt as a woman, there are several benefits to being broke.
Relationships will flourish
Unless a man is VERY secure with himself and his career, dating a successful woman is a turn off. Even in the twenty-first century, men are still pegged as the breadwinners.
The women are supposed to take care of him and tend to his needs. If she makes more money than he does, it’s a never ending battle in the household.
You will be rescued
Men like to rescue women, or to feel like she depends on him for survival. If she’s bad with money, can’t keep a job or just wants be a stay at home mom, a guy will propose to her right then and there.
It’s all about the damsel in distress theory. He needs to feel needed. If she can take care of herself, he feels threatened.
People will want to help
If you’re a struggling single woman or mother, there will be lots of people wanting to give you aid and assistance. Places like charities and shelters offer help and other guidance for women who need it (and I’m very thankful these things are available).
However, if you’re successful and able to take care of your kids or yourself, people look down on you. They never offer help, and expect you to take of everything on your own.
You don’t have to be Wonder Woman
We’ve come a long way in this country, but there’s still an under current of how a women should act. They should take care of the family, be domestically inclined, cook, clean and do the laundry.
For women who want both the career and the family, you have to be Wonder Woman before your efforts are even noticed. That choice is difficult, and it’s simpler to stay at home and “tend to the youngin’s”.
But for the women who do want it all, I say kudos to you! You will receive little praise, get hardly any respect, and constantly have to fight for your place. But you will be a happy, confident woman (and rich!).
Why are women more desirable when they make less money?
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