Most of us associate the word failure with negative thoughts and feelings. Nobody likes to work hard at something and feel like a quitter.
But there are times in life when failure is the best option.
For me, I realized this when I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, and hated the type of person I was becoming. No matter how hard we tried, and no matter how much counseling we endured, we were hurting each other.
Then after only 3 years, my marriage ended and we got divorced. I’m not the type of person to give up easily and I’m not a quitter.
I can be very competitive and I grew up believing in the quote “quitters never win, and winners never quit”. But I came to a point where accepting the failure of something that’s causing us pain, is the best and healthiest option.
Failure keeps you safe
Whether it’s a bad marriage, an abusive job or trouble in your finances, you should never “just suck it up” if it’s harmful to you physically, emotionally or mentally.
Quitting doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Sometimes it means you have the strength to accept that moving on is the best thing for you.
Failure brings motivation
For someone with my personality type, failure brings out my fighting nature. We get extremely motivated and hungry for victory. Caution is thrown to wind and dedication begins to take over.
The best success stories have come from the lowest points in life. In essence, failure is the key to real success, and without it you wouldn’t truly feel the thrill of victory.
Failure reveals your limits
There’s a fine line between genius and failure, between reaching higher and falling off the cliff. You never know your true potential until you push, and push, then push some more.
The best way to reveal what you’re truly capable of is to reach that epic point in your life, and then fail. That’s when you know, you did all you can. You reached higher and farther than ever before.
Failure shows you’re not afraid
Fear of failure is a big reason why many people, including myself, don’t strive for bigger and better things. We don’t want to learn to ride a bike because we are scared we’ll fall off and skin our knee.
I don’t want to get hurt, and I don’t want to feel pain. But if we all go through life trying to avoid pain, we will miss all the great life lessons.
How will you know the end of the story, if you don’t try? Of course there’s always a chance of failure, but there’s also a chance to succeed.
Failure gives perspective
It makes you stop and think, slow down and reassess the situation. When you’re failing at something it makes you thankful for what you do have, and for areas of your life that are successful.
We are all human, and we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Failure shows us clear boundaries and distinctions.
When you’re at the bottom looking up, you begin to see all the potential. You start recognizing the grand adventures and amazing opportunities. At this point you have nothing left to lose, and everything to gain!
Failure is not the end, it’s only the beginning! Never underestimate the power of small change.
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